I have an AD 18 yrs old in an abusive relationship. Told her that I love her but will not help her in any way to live this lifestyle. I know the litle ones must make it even harder, but by refusing to help her u may be helping them in the long run. Have told my daughter that if she ever wants out of the drugs AND wants no contact w/ABF then we would help her. She knows what would have to happen. So hard..wish u the best..