bcboy, my husband assumed the same thing as your wife. I just told him, he is free to do whatever he likes with his life, I am only concerned with doing right by mine. I can't be worried about him. For once, I am going to be positively selfish and just consider myself. As far as the drink thing goes, not sure what I would do. Probably the same thing as you if you told him three times already. I'd pour it out or set it down somewhere . Really what else can you do? Good for you that you did!