Congratulations Lulu.
There is nothing left for him to do to me. He has broken every vow and every promise he ever made.
I remember when I realized all of my worst fears had come true regarding my husband. He'd not only gotten a girlfriend, but was madly in love with her. Worst fears ever. And I felt--totally free~! there was nothing more for him to do. Not only that, but I didn't die. The earth didn't open up and swallow me. It was living hell for a year or so, yes, but it's also offered me absolute peace.
I started to take my life back. Like you're doing now. It's an amazing thrilling, comforting journey and I wouldn't trade it for anything.