Hmm...that is a good point. I was trying to work on this the other morning...figuring this out about me. Was it I didn't want to see reality because I didn't want to accept this was my marriage? Or was it something similar to what Bookwyrm wrote...where gradually things get worse?
I know for me, I had to write a list down of each event and the month right next to it. It helped to see it right there....every month or so something happened. My mind couldn't argue that away. You can't deny that.