About therapists and therapy. Not always easy to find the right fit but well worth the trouble to do so. I might suggest that seeking someone who specializes in marriage/family counseling vs individual. The difference stems from this: indiv therapists can be trained in any former tradition and vary from person to person, family therapists are trained exactly the same, individ therapists interact with you to build a healing relationship, family therapist are out of the picture and encourage a healing relationship between the couple. I do agree that the person should have a knowledge of D/A as well and you both will benefit from the teachings in AA and alanon.