I'm really feeling discouraged and down about everything. It is one thing after another. Anyways, my husband is willing to get counseling and wants to work through his issues and then our issues as well. We went to a counselor last year that was horrible and totally unhelpful, she sat there for for every session and just listened and then said we needed to work on communication and that was it. Totally unhelpful. I got more help from friends. THis month we saw a counselor twice, but she isn't a good fit for my husband and he felt cornered and attacked by her and he said he will not go back to her. I'm fine if he finds someone else and told him to. You need a counselor that you respect and that you feel comfortable with. So I told him that he should find his own counselor and be happy with finding his own help and who he is talking to. I haven't decided if I'll stay with mine or not. She is very good and helps with guidance, and doesn't just sit there and listen. So I like that. My husband said he liked that about her as well. So here I am wondering what type of help to get or what to do. My husband needs to pick his own help at this point, as he needs to feel comfortable. I need to stay with my counselor for the moment. I'm on here and on an online alanon group actively. I'm looking for a real life alanon group, there aren't any that are close at this point, but still looking. my husband was attending AA, but isn't sure about it or if he needs to quit, so hasn't gone in about a week. So we are both willing to get help, and both see our problems, but not sure if we are getting the right help and hard to find
My husband wants help and wants to deal with his issues, why he does the things he does, how to stop doing certain things he does, and wants us to get help as a family. But he has a lot of questions and doubts about quitting drinking. he is seeking answers and is researching on his own and wants to find answers. I hope that he finds the help that he needs/wants. This is the first time in 13 years that he has even gone to AA or even looked at himself this much. I hope that I find the help I need/want as well.