Originally Posted by Paintbaby

I have reached the point where I feel detached, emotionally numb and "done"--and I have never felt this way before. I have fallen out of love. He took all of my mental energy, and I realized I just cannot have a spouse that will never be capable of doing for me all that I did for him---and probably doesn't even have those instincts to do right by me in the first place. You don't know selfish until you have lived with an alcoholic, I learned. I realized this man will never have my best interests at heart, and that hurts. He will never his own best interests at heart, which is worse.