I'm glad your here. I feel for you and what you are going through. Alcoholism, truly is such a horrible disease, and even though it is one that can be arrested, and somewhat controlled, it is so tragic that in many cases the person isn't able to do that.
It is hard to accept that the person you once cared so deeply for, doesn't always care enough about themselves, because of everything their body has went through with the alcoholism.
It seems you have a good understanding of things, and a plan of action. I wish you well, and know we are here for you.
I am sure others with more wisdom and words of encouragement will be along shortly.
