Originally Posted by
intention 
When you say you got to Step 4, I am not surprised you feel the way you do about life and have got yourself in this trouble like you have.
Intention,
Based solely on what was posted by Tigerlili, I suspect you are giving your suggestions to someone who lacks the power to do a 4th Step at this moment.
There is talk of speaking with other AA members and maybe needing to do 90 in 90 to get her head on straight.
Not bad ideas in any way, but no concept of powerlessness or hopelessness.
There hasn't been a Step 1 experience, so there is no need for a Step 2. Hence, no decision and no power for Step 4. Hence, life sucks and a drink sounds good.