I always heard that when one
in the family is sick, the entire
family is affected, therefore all
to be in some sort of recovery
program would aid in becoming
a healthy family.
My family...husband/in-laws were
the ones who initiated the family
intervention that sent me to rehab
doing for me what i couldnt do
for myself. Getting me the help
I so desparetely needed at that
time in my life.
That set me on the road of recovery
doing whatever i needed to do to
not be separated from my little ones
and spouse.
I spend 28 days in rehab recieving
the tools and knowledge of my
alcoholism with a 6 week outpatiant
tacked on.
I went to many meetings listening
and absorbing all i could in order
to stay sober one day at a time.
My spouse went to several alanon
meeting picking up the word de-
tachment and figure that was
enough help he needed to
understand me....lol...i laughed.
And because of just that i didnt
recieve what i truely needed
from him as a spouse or husband
in my marriage and eventually
ended a 25yr marriage down the
road.
To this day, my little family and
those within my family circle and
friends dont believe i ever had a
problem with alcohol nor think
i am an alcoholic. They assume im
cured and all that is made up in
my mind for attention.
It's truely sad that they decided
to carry on with their busy lives
in which they have done so well
cause they were not the sick ones
in the family and didnt need help
like i did.
I know i cant keep taking their
inventories. Maybe they didnt
need help of a program yet they
didnt truely want to get to know
me as a mom, wife, daughter like
i would have wanted them to.
And soooooo today sadly we have a
distant relationship all around. And
i blame myself cause i keep pushing
them away cause i dont understand
them no more than they dont under-
stand me.
I got sick and tired of trying to
explain my life and changes to
them that i just moved on in my
life and sticking close to my recovery
family here in SR and spouse who
is also in recovery so we understand
each other.