Originally Posted by
mentallyexh 
Then he looked at my daughter and gave her a kiss and said if anyone ever treats you the way I treat your mommy I'll kill them...
When he looks from the outside in, to your relationship, he objectively sees it for what it is. When he thinks of his daughter being treated by another man the way he treats you.......... he knows. This is his admittance.
Why are you focusing on the 'dance' with him instead of the truth he revealed outside of the 'dance?' When he is not dancing with you he admits a dancer like him would be a very bad partner.
As I read your quote of his statement I hoped you would receive the freedom and release that came with such a revelation. Instead, you added it into the 'dance.'