Originally Posted by
froglegs 
I am trying to figure out if I am in the right about this situation, or if am wrong.
Froglegs... this phrase jumped out at me...
for me... I've had a lifelong habit of wanting being "right" and/or looking for validation. What I finally figured out... is I have to figure out what's right for me... ultimately it doesn't matter what anyone else says or thinks.
If you're uncomfortable about a situation... change it... for you.... if that means throwing the stbx turd to the sidewalk... so be it.
The fact that you recognize the "transitional" pattern... is painful... but perhaps you can and will find the lesson in it.... if that means throwing the stbx turd to the sidewalk... so be it.
For me painful and icky feelings are lifes way of telling me something... something ain't right and it's up to me... to put me in a better place.
BTW...(if I wasn't clear)... you might consider throwing the stbx turd to the sidewalk.
... and steer clear so you don't step in it.