froglegs

I am trying to figure out if I am in the right about this situation, or if am wrong.

We are about 3 months into our divorce. Thus far, things have been progressing just fine. AH is still living in the house, helping out financially now, things were ok.

Then I found out that he was dating someone else. Actually, he is talking to about 4 people, but getting serious about 1 in particular. Last night we had to go to a class about parenting required in my county for divorces with minor children. During the meeting he had his arm around me, was making jokes about things, etc. really inappropriate and it made me squeemish. So, we left the meeting and headed home...well, I headed home and he went to see his new girlfriend. I know where she lives because she is friends with my sister in law. We were about a mile away from her house, I saw him turn down her road. So, I felt sick to my stomach.

He sent me a text saying he was going to get some food and did I want anything, and how he thought the seminar we went to was really helpful. About an hour later he came home, and I asked where he had been. He said he had gotten some fast food, all along I knew where he was. So, I said where is your fast food, and he said I ate it, and I said where is the bag and he just looked at me like a deer in headlights. So, I asked where were you really? he lied and said he did get food, and he went to go check on some customers lawns to see if they were wet and if he could cut them today (mind you it hasn't rained since last week) so i said stop lying, where did you go...and he finally admitted he went there, because she called and said she had made dinner if he wanted to come over.

I pretty much blew up, and told him that he was going to need to move out immediately. I did not think it was fair for him to have a girlfriend, and live with me. We are not even divorced yet, and now it is in my face because we all have mutual friends, I see things they are saying back and forth on Facebook, and she called my home telephone Saturday night..it's getting too close to home for me... I said it was hurtful to me, and I thought he was moving to fast...he said it's not my concern because we are getting divorced, but I feel like it is.

I thought about the reason this was bothering me, and when we met he had a girlfriend I didn't find out about until well into the relationship. The things he is doing with this new girl are almost textbook to how our relationship started. He is repeating the same patterns 11 years later and it makes me sick.

I am trying really hard to work on myself, do things with the kids, keep focused on my job and try to get through this. I am not out trying to date the first guy that buys me a drink in a bar, or compliments me at a party, or whatever. i enjoy the attention but know that I am not ready for a relationship, and it eats me alive to know he is.

he says it is none of my business what he does because we are getting divorced, I think as long as he is in my home it is my business.... It's disresepectful and a slap in the face...especially considering this type of behavior is what brought our relationship to it's end in the first place....

He says he is going to move out today. I am totally at my wits end with this. Should it be my business? What can I do?

Thanks for letting me vent. I am very emotional today.