Jen,
Anvil said it, many of us came to this forum because we got tangled up with the wrong one, and, needed help and support to walk our way out of the mess we got ourselves into.
For me, I always had a bad picker when it came to men, if you were a man with a problem, I was there to save you. Did it ever work? Nope, not even close.
I wasted too many of my years with Mr. Wrong(s)...I am finally over that....
The crazy part of it all was that I was very successful in my career, very confident and wouldn't take crap from anyone, my personal life? It was a disaster. Could never figure that one out, seemed so out of balance, finally had to accept that I needed help in my personal life, therapy helped me, got me back on the right track.
You are reaching out for help, this is good, keep moving forward and be patient, it will happen.