One of the promises in the Big Book is "We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us" and the one right after that is "we will suddenly realize that God is doing for us, what we could not do for ourselves". When you said that your baby caught a fever, I thought to myself the latter applied. He just gave you time to figure out which side you stood on. Your in-laws will understand or not, the point is YOU will understand. God Bless