Thanks guys. I haven't bailed him out since I found out about the relapse, but that has not stopped his parents from helping (in the beginning anyway). I don't know what the money has been going to, and I honestly don't think it matters. I gave up on trying to find out if he was doing the right thing or not, if he is using I will find out eventually and going through his stuff and grilling him just makes me feel worse. I just want things to get better for me at this point (financially). If he wants to come along for the ride and make his life better that would be awesome, but my life is what matters to me right now. Funny thing was I told him about my codie tendencies and how I am working on letting people fix their own mistakes and at first he looked sad and then he said "Why would you want to fix my problems, that's not your job." Sometimes even addicts can have surprising moments of clarity. lol