Hi Folks -
As Smacked said, we all got a lot better once we focused on a program of recovery.
From my experience, we have to un-learn self-will. We have to realize that we can't solve this ourselves and that we need to DO rather than THINK.
I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but a program of recovery gives you the tools to live life. Your problem isn't the alcohol, you are just using alcohol to escape from your problem(s). When I got the tools to live a generally happy life, I no longer needed the alcohol to medicate myself.
These tools - for me at least - were learned through a program of recovery. SR is great and a wonderful compliment, but for me, it wasn't enough.
Life can be so wonderful -- but you can't do it alone.