Thank you guys. I am doing MUCH better. Much better. I allowed myself to be swirled into the chaos again.
This happens to me all the time. Boundaries don't always help me stay out of the tornado, but they ALWAYS help me get out of it quickly.
It's good to periodically check yourself. I do...
Yes do limit her contact with the kids. They don't need to be around "sick, sick people". It's not healthy for their development.