I still had self pity in situations like that at 30 days, hell, I still had some at 6 months... But it's just that, self pity... I had to learn to get over myself, because there are people more important to me, my kids among them.
My in-laws have a cocktail every day right around 5 PM... with out fail... and that's it, just one!! WTF... I can't do that, I didn't want to, ever... But they get pretty persistent in their offers, but after 2-3 times of me declining, they stop.
Self pity is very common in early sobriety. How are you finding your way away from that?? ... it sucks and threatens your sobriety.
Mark