if she refuses to respect your boundaries why do you keep showing up for more of the same? (asked very gently).
Very good point. I guess if she refuses when I reset then and stick by them myself then I won't. I told her about 3 months ago that I would not discuss XAH with her any further because apparantly we don't see eye to eye and it just causes tension. She basically said 'we're family, you know the way I am, you're talking nonsense' and hung up. Things died down for about a month (mainly because I was avoiding contact) and now with XAH about to get out, it's starting again.
He'll hopefully be out of the state shortly after he's released, so he won't be able to deal with her/kids. It will be me. I think once he's gone, things will be better. I'm just trying to make things peaceful for the kids as far as she's concerned from here on out.
CLMI - I've been letting things go to vm more and more. Thank you.