No, we don't have a court ordered custody arrangement. I am going to suggest using a mediator or counselor, so that maybe we can learn to communicate better when it comes to the kids.
I tried to talk to him tonight, but he insists he doesn't threaten me, but only "warns me about what he will do" when I won't comply with his point of view. He believes threats are only threats when someone threatens physical violence.
It is sad, because I am willing to hear his point of view. I just don't want to be bullied into doing whatever he wants.