Each contact you have seems to cause you pain or anger, or plain upsets you.
Go NC for a week, work on you, read, go out with friends, scrub floors, walk the dog, (if you don't have one, BORROW one) attend alanon meetings, go to church, light a candle for you, him, SR, and pray for guidence. Get you hair done, have a manicure, pedicure, a full body massage or try and beat the Marcos shoe title.
Do anything to keep your brain and it's thoughts off him, and on YOU. You know why?
Because his thoughts are not on YOU, only on what you can do for HIM and what he can do to upset you. He isn't paying rent to you brain, so evict him from it.
Now go plan your busy day.
God bless