Should I give them an utilmatim that either he or I pick my grandson up from daycare or I call the authorities about her.
I'm wondering why the daycare center hasn't called the authorities yet?
You are still trying to control her drinking.
The three C's:
You didn't cause it
You can't control it
You won't cure it
In my experience, your picking up grandson and delivering him home to his parents just gives her a safety net for drinking. She can drink on the way home without her child in the car. She will still drink. She will still arrive home tipsy, buzzed, sloshed, etc. She is an alcoholic. She will continue to drink.
In addition, your keeping grandson every other weekend also gives her space and time to drink and give up her responsibilities as a parent. It's like a drinking vacation every other weekend.
Hi, I'm Pelican and I am a recovering alcoholic. I loved it when my parents took responsibility for my children. It was like having a permission slip from mom to go get drunk.
My parents love wasn't strong enough to get and keep me sober. I had to do it for myself, by myself (with support from other recovering alcoholics).
Have you tried Alanon meetings again since your last post?