Originally Posted by
MissFixit 
Hi,
(Lightbulb!) The exA cheated on me and I was the one who felt sleazy. The exA lied and I felt dishonest and embarrassed. The exA did and said bizarre things and I felt crazy. WTF? Why do I feeling emotions based on HIS behavior? I did not have that same dynamic with the former guy. Okay, this is a revelation to me out of the blue.
What I've read, and I'm not sure exactly how it works, a symptom of lack of boundaries, resulting in
over-enmeshment with the other.
Someone else can help me out here, don't have any of these books with me!