Sober RABF is super capable, doing everything for himself, and lots for me and others in this complex....BUT....when in drinking mode....his brain and all ability, other than pouring a beer,....hibernates, just freezes up and he is as useless as teats on a wooden bull.
I have had phone calls from 1000 miles away, asking me "where he was and how to get back to where he was staying?" Overseas and same thing, or some other stupid problem caused by maximum of beer and minimum of brain.....WTF I was expected to do about these things, Heaven only knows....I didn't.
My replies of "don't know, haven't a clue, ask somebody who is there, find a cop", often received a blast of accusation as to me being "unhelpful" or not caring....blah blah.
I may have worried about his safety and health after 1 or more of these dumbo calls, but didn't go nuts or call out the army to find him...I figured he got where he was and could find his own way back somehow. He always did.
God bless