My sister has spent her entire adult life (25yrs) allowing people to do everything for her. Her ex-husband was the ultimate enabler and my sister was happily along for the ride until a year ago when the ex finally got a clue and told her he didn't love her anymore, was tired of doing it all and wanted a divorce. I can't tell you how many times my sister has started a conversation with "He always took care of..." I remind her every time that he isn't around anymore and no one else is going to do it for you! My sister won't even check her mail unless someone reminds her...pathetic!