DesertEyes

That's one of the sympromts of ACoA-ism. We are the only healthy ones, but we get labeled crazy. It does make some weird kind of sense in a backwards sort of way. In a famliy of black sheep, it's the white one that looks out of place

nope, you have not. My own biological family is quite similar, so I have the personal experience from which to say that is awful.

support from whom? Your children don't get to vote until they are adults _and_ have experience enough life to fairly understand the situation. Your toxic relatives don't count cuz they're nutz. So the only one that counts is your hubby.

good for you !!!!

You are not the problem, you are the victim. And if you want to go see a specialist to get healed, what business is it of anybody else what _you_ do for your self?

Very slowly, one day at a time. That is also how they heal, with a lot of time.

nah, her vote doesn't count either. You _are_ doing the right thing to fix it. You're just not doing a lazy, half-done, unprofessional job. You're going to get the job done _right_, for the best of you, your family and eventually for your grand-children when the time comes.

Mike