Not sure what you mean, Sofacat?
This IS a forum about codependency, based loosely but not officially on the principals of the Al-Anon, Nar-Anon and CoDA (Codependents Anonymous) programs.
The problem varies with each of us, some are partners, some are parents, some are siblings and some are friends of people who are addicted to some substance. Some are just codependent in some or all areas of their lives and it has nothing to do with substance abuse.
The solution is the same for most of us, to find our own recovery and learn to live our lives in a healthy manner...whether we remain with our addicts or not.
My addict is my son who has been missing for almost 6 years. But I am still a recovering codependent who needs to work on my own program daily so I can continue living a life that is happy, peaceful and filled with joy.
If I am reading your post wrong, please forgive me. But please know that anyone facing codependent issues is welcome to share here...whether or not it has anything to do with substance abuse.
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