i think that alice and posie gave you really good insight.
my xah did the thing all the time, where they just show up, or get up in the morning and behave as though nothing HUGE had just happened.
it's shame.
they can't face what they have done, what they are. can't face it.
how do you not face something? you simply don't.
WE are self-reflective. WE question. WE try and make sense of things that don't make sense. WE try and reason, and understand.
THEY do not.
i think sometimes we beat our heads against a wall because we don't get why they are not like us: truthful, analytical, trying to grow.
but these people ARE NOT.
i don't know about your other question. i, too try to understand why i have tolerated so much. i think it's all been said. it's just hard to get it.