As a recovering alcoholic this makes me sad to read. Huggs for having to have dealt with all of this. I read through your posts on your AH and no matter what is his addiction is.....you don't need it. You need to focus on your healing my friend and to move on without him. There is more than addiction going on with him and his behavior and treatment towards you can not soley be marked off to that.
I pray you find the strength to sever ties and remove him from your life. He will certainly look for another person to mooch and use.
I have been there much like you and once my divorce ended the weight of the world was lifted and I was able to start my own healing and recovery. My life started anew.
I have sought counseling with my recovery to understand those years of why I stayed in an that mentally abusive situation.
God Bless. Stay steady and strong.