Hi Jade,
Welcome and I'm glad you want to stop drinking.
I was caught up in the work at work/work at home thing too. By the time my kids were teenagers, I had completely, totally lost myself. I did nothing for me and honestly believed that I should always sacrifice for my family. What I didn't get, was that I would burn out, would run myself into the ground. And, I did, and I became depressed, anxious and had insomnia. I began using alcohol to help me relax in the evening and sleep. Before I knew it, I was hooked and my drinking turned into a horrible habit that almost cost me my family.
I wish I had known the importance of taking care of me, so that I had renewed energy to take care of my family.