I can really relate to the disconnect in my mother about the "distribution" of her "charity."
She lavishes both affection and things on my sister while I'm still neglected. The pattern continues, but at least now I can see it. "Courage to Change"(Al-Anon devotional) on page 2 "We go to the hardware store for bread" and on page 153 "Expectations are just premeditated resentments." I was helped when I stopped expecting my mother to change as she is who she is. She has shown me her character. Now I need to believe what I see, and I can be the parent and protect myself
(((((hugs)))))