NC is brutal at times.
You will have your A contact you, say they don't want any more of your BS and stress, while it is actually them that is initiating the BS and stress by contacting you, whilst at the same time turning it around on you, even though you haven't done anything.....
So I think the logic goes:
"Hey you, sitting there minding your own business not saying anything, I don't want anymore of your crap and I'm sick of all the stress you have caused me."
The minute you bite on that hook you're done for.
Makes my head spin.
It takes practice and the anxiety can be overwhelming at times.
Today my ex contacted me about my daughter, saying that I am somehow causing her stress that she doesn't need whilst she's taking care of the child.....the thing is, I haven't talked or had contact with ex A in about 3 weeks.....
I dunno. I just don't know.