My parents didn't throw me out
in order to make me grow up
they died.
So I was irreversibly put out on my own
at twenty
with two sons.
When my own sons became unmanageable
i cut them loose as well.
it was without saying hands down no argument
the hardest thing I've ever done.
I had no personal support
and lost all interest in everything...
until *I* finally drank
like the alcoholic I was born to be.
If you are TRULY going to cut your daughter free
fre to fly or free to fall
I advise you to be secure in your own sustem of support.
Because you're ARE going to hurt.
But if you've prayed about this decision
like I did
and you are sure you are doing the right thing...
sure it is the ONLY thing you know to do ....
then do it and do NOT look back.
There can be no room for regret.
Fifteen years later
BOTH my sons
clearly stated
that they'd never known me to do ANYTHING that I didn't completely
believe was the Right. Thing. To Do.
The greatest compliment I've ever received from them.
And never ONCE in all that time
did I doubt Id done the right thing.
Today they are both
responsible, mature men...
no criminal activity
no drugs or alcohol abuse ...
and they BOTH credit that to me.
But sister -
There can not be a harder road to walk alone.
Spare yourSELF that .. by finding a strong resource circle
and stucking with it.