He basically wanted me to have sex with him, and when I refused, turned really mean.
Which, struck me in THIS context,
as you refused him the ultimate act of ownership.
It wasn't about driving to the job interviews.
it was ALL about 'getting a hook' in.
tacky little pun there, but ... well that's what it is.
GOOD for you with standing your ground.
he's not going to KNOW that he did this....
until HE has to actually BE ... 'in what he made'...
and until that imaginary window of getting rescued
is closed once and for all.
And YOU can now use all that extra energy
to repair yourself.