thanks everyone for your advice and perspectives. I hung out with my friends ex tonight. She just wanted to "hang out" with him as friends so I humored her.
Anyway, he is a pothead and I told him about my breakup with my ex. After awhile, her ex admitted to me that he grows too.
He is the same age as my ex, still lives at home, and when he talks, he sounds like a 16 year old.
It REALLY opened my eyes. My ex just wasn't what I needed. I settled and I need to stop doing that. I always settle and I need to start looking for a guy thats on my level.
Its been a long journey so far, but I am slowly restoring my self esteem and learning some heavy lessons about love and lust along the way.
I need to take my blinders off and take into consideration these little red flags when they come along. Then I need to RUN!!!!!!!
When I met my ex, he was a pothead living at home, unemployed.....
Nothing changes if nothing changes. Im happy to say that Im finally changing and it feels so good to be out of the bubble.