Originally Posted by
naive 
try to stay present and let the worries of the day be enough for the day.
I like this advice.
I also think that if you have NO CONTACT with him at all in the next weeks, it will be more unlikely that he shows up on your doorstep.
I also know it will be hard to say no but you can do it and you'll feel better about yourself when you do. Don't break no contact and you wont' even have to say no. If he shows up on your door step refuse to answer it. If he causes a ruckus, call the cops to have him escorted away. Seriously. Just don't let him cross your line.
I had to do it too so I know it isn't easy - and my lousy xah didn't take it well, kept begging, and spoke to the kids about it blaming me for the fact he can't eat.
OMG - Poor 47 year old college educated man can't figure out how to eat. Wah wah wah.
I'm in a mood today, lol. Basically I'm just saying it is probably unlikely to happen anyway but if you are prone to worry - just make a plan for how you'll handle it. Make the plan now, when there is no high emotion to confuse you, and then set the worry aside. You've already solved it
