I take both valarian and melatonin...also the supplement called PM relaxation by procaps labs...(order it online). I take my calcium before bed...drink many kinds of relaxing tea.
if you have allergies, try Zyrtec, it makes you very sleepy...no dry mouth like benydril. I also use either Tylenol PM (one is enough) or Advil PM.
I've had scrips for Lunesta which didn't work at all for me, Ambien is habit-forming but after a while it does not work....but i get in a weird-semi-sleep state and will cook something that just is NOT edible, leave it on the stove....when i wake up i wonder WTF and just through it out.