Froglegs... the pain is undeniable... for that I'm sorry to hear.
I've come to the conclusion (for me) the realization that some people are just yucky... with or without alcohol and drugs...
Unfortunately it seems you've been married to one....
Fortunately you've been given a reprieve and I hope you hop on down the road find a lovely pond and a new lily pad all your own.
Hugs to you.