If we didn't have irrational guilt we probably wouldn't be codies.
I just try to stay focus on the present and stay in the now. I keep busy taking baby steps towards my goals. If I remain focused on my goals and moving forward, it helps me separate myself from my irrational feelings and it takes away their power over me.
You are not responsible for him. He's a grown man. He's not a baby. You are responsible for you. That's a huge responsibility. Don't take it lightly.
If you don't treat yourself as a precious person who deserves love and respect, no one else will either.