Originally Posted by
Andi 
I see three red flags 1. he drinks 3 kirr royale in about 1 1/2 hrs time 2. his hands are trembling 3. he barely touches his food. Is it possible that he was just very nervous and I'm over-reacting or "seeing things" as a newbie or...
IMO, trust your instinct. When meeting a new person for lunch (or whatever kind of date) for the first time, usually people are nervous, but tend to try to be on their best behavior (3 drinks in 1.5 hours is alot, especially if you weren't drinking at all).
Before recovery, I was drawn to every problem drinker like a magnet hoping to fix them - thank God I don't do that anymore, but my instinct is pretty well on target when it comes to the red flag signs.
Perhaps he was drawn to your calm, sober demeanor? If so, you can be supportive, but I don't think it's anyone's job to
save someone from themself.