I almost feel guilty for feeling as hopeless as I do. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
No, it is not wrong to feel this way. It is your son, and his choices are hurting you.
Your son's addiction has been "bad" enough to put him in the brig.
He will most likely get a dishonorable discharge, although I am not an expert on this.
(He might be able to upgrade it to general later)
but still he has made decisions that will affect the rest of his life and that is big.
big time hurt for you and your son.
I am sorry, and my daughter's drug of choice is pot. I have told her if she is caught all monies for school will dry up quick and she will not get them back.
They think it is "harmless fun" but it has far reaching effects.
Beth