I completely get what it is you're saying. I didn't mean to imply that alcoholics have a monopoly on anything.
FAS is centered around alcoholism. It's nothing short of horrid. Caused soley by alcoholism by an alcoholic. What I tend to think is that another alcoholic would/could only understand why someone could do this horrendous selfish act. While a non-alcoholic may have a much harder time wrapping their heads around it. So, let's say I go out with a nice man in no program at all. Then discuss my child. It would be quite a turn-off. An erroneous opinion could very well be formed. As one would have to ask themselves in one form or another "Is this the kind of person I see myself with".
This was the thought I was trying to convey.