Sorry for my last vent!!
Well he said he doesn't want to go anywhere and wants to live with me.
That our issues are not as big as our "love" and even when he doesn't like stuff about me he stays because he is happy next to me......
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I told him I preferred to be alone to feel better and have a better relation with him and life in general and see things under a diff light than playing house, that I felt old..very old.
So.. he said "ok but you'll let me get on my feet first right.???" so that's a few months....
Anyway I felt asleep in his arms and when I woke up I felt much easier. We went for icecream then watched old "Lost" episodes.
He washed the dishes and swept the floor.
He also said I didn't seem to care.. and to place myself in his shoes... for some reason it was easier for me to see his efforts.
In any case I feel better I got an idea of what I need, for now I also got the foster cats and expenses so I am ok, at least knowing one day either he goes or I save enough to and its me that leaves.
It is much easier when one has a plan......
Anyway, I got another dumb question. Can I ????
Who pays for the wedding? when you married was it 50/50? Should the male pay everything??