I LOVE this thread. I'm so glad I live alone with my kids. The puppy kept me up last night, but he's just a baby, not a stumbling, drunken idiotic grown man.
TC, I'm wondering why you would lift a finger, do one single thing to help someone who won't go outside to fart?
Also, about these resentments you have regarding his not returning your acts of kindness: have you ever talked to him about them? Told him how it makes you feel and asked for him to be more conscious?
My experience was that when I did, AH conveniently "forgot" or used it to feel like a victim. He'd say he had to walk on eggshells around me because I wanted so much from him.
Seriously, some folks just aren't compatible. The relationship Cats Pajamas describes makes the most sense to me. Easy like..