BrightFuture

So, my boyfriend got drunk and went into a rage a few days ago. The next morning, he claimed he knew he was mean, but didn't really remember anything. I'm sure he does remember more than he's letting on, even though I know he does black out. It just seems convienent that he has some idea, but not enough to know what happened. In the past with his black outs, it's all or nothing. Anyhow, he told me the day after that he felt awful and would do whatever it takes so it doesn't happen again. I know enough not to hold my breath on that one.

Well, today I asked him if he was going to go to AA, since that was the plan. He said no, and he didn't want to talk about it. I wasn't yelling or confrontational. All I said was that I was hoping he would go due to what happened the other night. He immediately got angry, said I ruined his mood, and then went and pouted in the bathroom, thanking me for ruining things and knowingly putting him in a bad mood. I didn't chase him or anything. I know his response was out of line for my question. I didn't feel guilty at all, like I'm sure he wanted, because I feel it was a legit question. I'm sorry for rambling, but my question here is, why do you think he blew up so fast? Is it because he knows he should go?

He doesn't normally have anger issues. It's a rare occurance when he's drunk, like once a year. However, when he doesn't want to discuss something, he often uses pouting or even scare tactics about us to derail conversations, or he just shuts down and ignores me.

Thanks guys.