thanks guys i have asked him and hes agreed so im just doing my own thing atm been so busy with the gardens of 1ate the A spoke to me 1ast night and was same o1d quacking just me whos changed now i do think i am becoming stronger the more im away from him im just very tired managing two gardens takes it out of u stops me over thinking things as for second guy for now im just gonna stand sti11 with it see how this pans out cos i do 1ike to give pp1 a fair chance and so far hes not put a foot wrong apart wanting to be with me a11 the time but time wi11 te11 if thats gonna become an issue cos i wont be contro11ed again by anyone thanks though eh chance to air my worries xxxx