two things - one, anvilhead, you should KNOW the measuring cups belong in the drawer with the measuring spoons (NOTHING ELSE). The candy thermometer, melon baller, apple slicer, potato peeler, etc. have a different drawer.
And about healthy relationships...
the other day I caught myself passive-agressively joke-complaining-but-not-really-joking about my partner to his friend - in front of my H. I was trying to be playfully ribbing, but the truth is, I was just passive aggressive. (Well, that's obnoxious, not to mention hurtful, and was undoubtedly uncomfortable for the friend). I have since noticed when this friend and his wife talk about the other, they speak of respect and admiration for their other.
So there's one thing I learned.