Hi wilson
I had a good many people not wanting me to be drunk, yet not wanting me to be 'weird' and not drink at all. They didn't understand.
You and I know alcoholism has nothing to do with a failure in restraint, or an exercise in gluttony or a lapse in character.
I tried my best to explain this to those close to me as fully and honestly as I could - some got it, some didn't....but regardless I knew what I had to do.
If you've discussed this with your wife and she doesn't understand, then that's rough - but it's not a dealbreaker.
This board is full of people who've stayed sober under similar circumstances
If we could always control what happens after we take that first drink, none of us would have a problem.
In the end, you know what is right for you to do.
D