I just wanted to let you know, I read a really cute book last night, It's called "What Smart Women Know" it's by Steven Carter. I was actually thinking about you when I read it...don't know why, maybe your posts.
I thought it was a good read for the point you are at...just cute little stories and quotes I found appropriate. It talks about how NOT to keep kissing frogs and things to watch out for when you re-enter the dating world after being in a codie relationship..... One quopte that sticks out in my mind is "Beware of the man who thinks a contenintal breakfast is a bagel and a vodka martini".....
I wish you the best with your situation. I think you have all of your guards up and you know what you want to do. Coming here looking for justification is part of our codie ways, but ultimately you are the one living your own life...None of us go to bed at night wondering what your doing....well, maybe I did last night with that book but.....
No matter what we are all here to support you, whatever decesion you make!